Dreams aren’t always realized from what’s around you or who is around you. Sometimes you have to make a few tough decisions to get where you want to be. And sometimes you acquire the encouragement to do so from sources that are both “likely” and “unlikely”, at the same time.
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I was talking with a friend on Yahoo IM late one night a few months ago while sitting on the couch in a relative’s Nittany Lions man cave:
(Note: He was kind enough to stay up late to talk and this friend knew of my ABDL-mindedness, but not to the extent that I felt it, kept it in my heart and explored it in real life.)
Our conversation:
Him: “Okay, Nate. There’s a couple of things I want you to do for me. I wrote these down so I wouldn’t forget any of them.
#1. Don’t ever again fall in love so much as to be unable to love anyone else.
#2. Don’t ever again want someone so much that you can’t see beyond them.
#3. Don’t ever again give of yourself freely without acquiring something to show for it.
#4. From now on, make completely certain that you (mess) something up every day. It’s just as important as getting things right.
#5. Don’t ever believe anyone to be that good for you because all females become the exact same woman by the end. Dream-Come-True’s aren’t reality.”
Me: “You know I don’t agree with you. You know me a lot better than that. Not only am I incapable of doing any of those things, even if I were capable, I would refuse to be that way about anything.”
Him: “I know, but damn you! It took me a while to come up with that list! I thought it summed it up pretty good!”
Me: “Well, it summed something up. Don’t ask me what. But maybe part of the process is getting to a point in time when you stop listening to what other people are saying and you remember what you know to be the truth.”
Him: “And what truth is that? I gotta hear this. Put it to words, author boy. ha ha”
(So I thought about it for a moment before responding.)
Me: “All right …
#1. Imperfection is mandatory. So seek it like you do everything else.
#2. Sometimes we’re at our best when we can’t see it about ourselves.
#3. Don’t look for the Dream-Come-True. Look for the reality which could include it.
#4. Don’t forget what you felt … because there wasn’t anything wrong with it.
#5. And the one which I think about every day: Smile … because you saw what your future will be.”
Him: “But look where you are now.”
Me: “I know. But look where I was before.”
Him: “Are you sure it didn’t come to you at a cost?”
Me: “Sure it did. In several ways. But I think I knew from the start that I would either wind up with the Dream-Come-True or with nothing at all.”
Him: “Right. Like I said. LOOK WHERE YOU ARE NOW!!!!”
Me: “What makes you think I didn’t find the Dream-Come-True?”
Him: “Oh, you found it did you?”
Me: “Yes, more so than I’ll ever tell you, Chief. Maybe it just hasn’t found me yet … But then again, maybe it did all ready. I guess time will tell.”
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In every stage of life, there is a journey you undetake. The destination isn’t always clear from the start and it may change along the way, but when you reach the destination, you’ll know it because you’ll know you belong there. Until you reach the destination, you’ll have so many questions to fill your mind.
But sometimes, without knowing it, something will happen that will make you realize you had the answers within you all along. It just takes a little “James Bond – Shaken, not Stirred” to make it clear … That, and a few friends along the way who refused to let you fall.














































































