I received an email from someone who asked about the Daddy’s Girl Fetish and how it might fit into their lives. I actually get this kind of email on a somewhat regular basis and I’m always happy to share my opinion with them.
Because ABDL is such an individual interest, the answer will be different for each of us. (Maybe that’s what makes it all so “dynamic” to each of us.)
But in an email I received today, I was asked something I had never been asked before:
“Give me three good reasons”.
I stopped to think about the answer and for quite some time, tried to find a way to limit my response to three reasons:
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I go back and forth on using the term “fetish” when describing ABDL. That term can instantly turn people off to listening to what it’s about and using the word “fetish” can automatically make people think it’s sexual and nothing else.
I often use the word “Dynamic”. A relationship with the Daddy/BabyGirl Dynamic often can go a lot deeper than other types of relationships. When you connect to each other’s hearts with dynamic, you continue exploring the bond – long after most other types of relationships have lost their flame.
So, in that sense, a Daddy/BabyGirl Dynamic can constantly renew a relationship and keep it so for a lifetime.
I was engaged about 12 years ago to one of them there “vanilla types”. Our engagement did for us exactly what an engagement is supposed to do: It helped us to decide if we were right for one another or not.
Life went on, but not without the knowledge that being a Daddy will always be a part of who I am. And denying this basic truth of self didn’t seem logical or right either.
To answer the emailer’s question, I thought and I thought … and then I scratched my thinker and finally came up with three that best describe it for me:
Three reason to have the Daddy/BabyGirl Dynamic (for yourself – as a little):
1. To feel the kind of attention you once knew. I call this “White Hot” Attention. 2. To slow down and take time to notice the details in life most overlook. 3. To have fun, fun, fun. Cyndi Lauper once sang that fun is what girls wanna have. …Three reasons to have the Daddy/BabyGirl Dynamic (with someone)
1. To continue learning new things about each other. A BabyGirl’s Heart – Enter The Daddy 2. To share a relationship with someone, embraced for all of your sides. 3. To feel love at a far deeper level than you could’ve imagined. …Sometimes, I think the “love” of little can be lost in the “fussy, brattyness” of little. It’s so easy to get into the mindset of “I want, I want, I want”. And this will turn anyone off to the idea.
And sometimes explaining that you believe the dynamic to be a part of you and that you would like to explore this with them will ring more clearly in their ears, as opposed to saying “This is all ready a part of who I am”. By saying it like that, you are giving someone a decision to make that they may not be ready to.
But perhaps the greatest reason of all may be that: You truly need to be you. And honesty is the clearest path to truth.
Blessings,
– ZD
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