Sentimentality can strike you at the most unexpected of moments. And when it does, you find yourself reflecting on memories you merely made yesterday.
It’s amazing what a long car ride to the beach with an irreplaceable BabyGirl can reveal about what we know about ourselves, what we know about others, what we’ve learned along the way and what we’ve always known.
Perhaps the things we know most clearly are what we view as our necessities. And for a BabyGirl, necessities often aren’t tangible, material items. This may be contrary to popular belief as it seems a little girl is garnished with so many gifts she doesn’t know what to do with them all.
But for her, perhaps the heart of the matter is an ever-present list of concerns. In my experiences, I’ve seen the concerns of long distance, wanting to be herself, insecurity, wanting the fairy tale, cherishing being cherished and loving being loved taking the foremost position in her thoughts.
Maybe the biggest struggle for a BabyGirl is how to fit ABDL into her life. It’s not just something that she wants. It’s something that she needs. And it’s not just something that she feels. It’s a part of who she is.
What do you do when everybody loves you, when everybody gushes over you and when you receive more attention than you know what to do with? It would seem natural that you might become numb to it or you might take it for granted. But for a BabyGirl, there is no such word as “enough”. And it may be the single, most difficult thing for her to explain without sounding conceded.
But it gets right back to the heart of the matter.
Being a BabyGirl is something that every girl is naturally born into.
Those who remember what the white-hot attention felt like at a point in life when all that mattered was being you, being who you were and being happy with who you were – those are the people who grow up on the outside, but only because they have to.
On the inside, they are as perfect as the day they were born. And instead of growing up the way society told them to, they instead took all the blessings they learned along the way and found a way to work them into their life as a BabyGirl.
So they never really struggled to find a way to work ABDL into their lives. In fact, it was the other way around for them, happily and by choice.
And for those who never had the chance to feel that white hot-attention when they were young, they never lost the desire to feel it. It was simply a matter of time before the opportunity either presented itself or before they found the determination to go out and find it.
In either scenario, it was only a matter of time before they got to the heart of the matter.
So what is the heart of the matter? It’s what matters most to each of us. Those are the things we will pursue with a passion unlike any other in life.
Perhaps, above and beyond the rest of it, is the need to be who we are. And maybe even more importantly still, feeling comfortable with who we are.
We don’t forget things as basic as identity. But sometimes, life will try to make us forget it.
I recall a year of life when I had no identity at all. It wasn’t the loss of my social security number or driver’s license. But the theft of identity was within me. Through a series of bold steps forward, I rediscovered what I never really forgot, but simply took for granted … me.
I would finally wake up one morning and suddenly remember myself. The esteem had returned and I took in a deep breath of air, knowing that I had something inside me to offer to another … should she ever appear.
Three days later, I met my beloved Espy.
How’s that for karma? A rediscovery of self was definitely at the heart of the matter for me. And when I took the time to get that straight, everything else seemed to fall in line.
The heart of the matter might be the best starting point we could possibly have. When you take the time to feel good about who you are and to recognize that you are wonderful at this very moment – exactly as you are right now, you tend to notice the world around you with a vision that suddenly makes clear what is truly most important.
Blessings to you all as you make your journeys in life. I pray that each and every one of you allows the heart of the matter for you to guide your steps.
– Zorro Daddy
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