The Fundamentals of “Compelling”

I stumbled across FetLife.com in December 2009.  At the time, the site was just a bit shy of being two years old and it didn’t yet have the masses of members that it can now boast.

But what it did have, even at that early stage, were groups with compelling discussions.  And as I perused through the site, dumbfounded by how represented Lancaster, PA was, I happened upon some of these threads and just started reading.

I remember being on that site some nights until dawn broke.  It was very much like the night in October 1998 when I made my initial “ABDL discovery” on the internet.

Present-Day FetLife is heavily populated now with more groups and more discussions than anyone could have time to read through.  And, as is a typical growing pain when influx happens, tons of members bring tons of personalities into the mix.  You find your head spinning as great discussions sometimes get lost and less-than-popular discussions spontaneously find new replies.

But every so often, there comes a thread that can handle all of it.  It can be compelling while being derail-proof, provoking without becoming pointless and timeless without needing to stand the test of time.

A few weeks ago, I found such a thread on The Big Little Podcast Group, entitled:

The topic touched on a discussion point that would certainly have as many unique responses as there are unique people on the site.  (In other words, a lot.)

What do you get out it?

I’ve seen that discussion point come up before, in the context of what a Daddy gets out of an age play relationship.  Strangely, I’ve never really been able to answer that question myself.

But as I read through this thread, the answers people gave encouraged me to try again.  So I did. 

Then the thread began to move in a new direction.  One’s beliefs seemingly began to conflict with another’s and, as seems usual, the thread started to derail.

But it didn’t derail.  And the reason why was more important than individuality itself.

Here’s the thread: Let’s discuss… as an age play top/dominant….

Blessings,

Zorro Daddy