What a Daddy Gets From It: Purpose

Every now and then, I make reference to the question: “What Does A Daddy Get From the Dynamic?” I’ve seen this question pop up on a quite a few sites and I’ve received this question in emails and private messages. And I’ve done my best to answer it. But it doesn’t seem to matter how many times it’s stated, the answers given are often hard for a BabyGirl to understand. Perhaps the only way to know what a Daddy gets from it is to be a Daddy – just the same as the only way to understand what a BabyGirl gets from it is to be a BabyGirl.

It’s frustrated me a bit that, though I find it easy to write, I just simply can’t find an all-encompassing answer to this question. So what I’ve decided to do is create a series of on-going blog entries, until I have fully answered the question.

This is the second entry and each entry will detail a small little “something” that I’ve gotten from my time as a Daddy. But these are only my answers, my opinions and what I get from the dynamic. It may differ for others and that’s the beauty of it. Much like Age Play and ABDL itself, it is as individual as we are.

So the third entry I will entitle as: “Purpose”.

I remember years upon years ago, after I had made the ABDL discovery online and rejoiced that I wasn’t the only one in this world, I began to study the subject. In pursuit of knowing more about it, I searched for every ABDL site I could find. There were actually quite a few of them back then. But hardly any of them have survived. I was in pursuit of learning what I didn’t know, since I believed a lot of it had something that pertained to me. That was the purpose.

It was the discoveries I made along the way that would open up so many other things to me, filling me with countless thoughts and ideas … one of which being – writing stories. And for a bit of time, I would write down all these thoughts, concepts, ideas, boggles of the mind and the like – stringing some of them together and turning them into short postings that later I would learn were called “blogs”. (Hey, stop laughing! We all had to start somewhere. LOL)

I remember pouring my heart and soul into those blog postings, sitting in the food court at the mall here in Lancaster, PA and scribbling down my thoughts on a piece of paper I kept in my back pocket. Then I would go home and type my ramblings out – posting them on sites like daddys-girl.net.

One posting followed another, leading from concepts into scenarios and eventually scenarios into storylines. Though it felt really good to be able to put my thoughts to words (and for that reason, meaningful to me), I hadn’t yet discovered purpose. I was writing about what I thought, not what I had done. And while there was nothing wrong with that, what I was really looking for was purpose.

So how does this apply to what a Daddy gets from the dynamic?

Enter “Purpose”.

This one is pretty straight forward in meaning: When you have a reason to do something, “a purpose” for it, then it means so much more to you. And when you love that purpose with all your heart and soul, it means everything to you … as they mean everything to you.

With enough time and with enough connection, you begin to feel the reasons why she smiles and you reproduce those reasons so she can smile again. You begin to learn how to stop her from getting upset, or if she does cry, you learn how to swipe the tear away from her lower eyelid before it streams down her cheek and messes up her make-up. Sometimes it’s best to let the tear form to allow whatever has upset her to be swiped away as well. You learn what is important to her and make it important to yourself, or you make it important enough to remember it. You learn to head off problems before they ever happen and you learn to pave the way for the things you know will overjoy her.

The purpose you find in all this is that you were part of the reason why she got what she wanted, what she needed, what she had been missing or what she just wanted a little more of in her life. Perhaps you were the only reason she found her fortunes. Or perhaps you were a part of her life for the whole “Season, Reason or a LifeTime” belief system.

And there is nothing more heart-warming, more mind-numbing and more meaningful than seeing an emotion well up inside someone – an emotion that you put inside her and nurtured until she was overcome by it … maybe to the point where all she could do was smile at you and babble out her happiness.

Purpose has many different meanings that will vary from person to person and there isn’t one universal definition. So don’t go looking for one, just trust that you’ll know it when you feel it. But that’s the beauty of it, being able to personalize it … first for her and then for yourself.

And to me, that’s another reason why the Daddy/BabyGirl connection is dynamic.