10 Dynamic Moments: “Privacy Lost”

Dynamic Moments are points in time when you make discoveries or when you come to conclusions or when you feel the beginnings of something greater than yourself.

During the month of December, I will be writing about 10 such moments.

Here is the seventh:

Privacy Lost –

The longer you know someone, the more you will know about them. It seems to be reasoning based on good logical sense. And with the exception of those people who are clairvoyant and psychic, no one can tell the kind of person you are from a momentary glance or from a short time together. But it is, in fact, time that reveals all things – from truth to the most finite of details.

I’ve always believed a dynamic relationship to be one where you never stop learning new things about each other. And it’s no slight meant against vanilla relationships to say that the dynamic opens up little pieces of people that otherwise wouldn’t have been shared without the chocolate.

It’s a gaining of fulfillment. And privacy lost is a very big part of it.

How many people in your life know everything there is to know about you?
We all likely would answer: “No one”. Not even a partner, spouse or soul mate.

But what if your answer could be: “Yes. There is one person who knows everything there is to know about me. And when I learn new things about myself, so do they”?

What would that require of you to let someone into every place in your heart, in your mind and in your soul? Every emotion you feel would be displayed. And even moments when you shielded yourself in personal privacy would be gone.

It may sound a bit extreme, but it really wouldn’t be – because the one person you have shared your entire self with would be someone you trust with everything that you are and everything that you could ever become.

And suddenly, you would have someone …

• … relating to you in different ways at different moments for different reasons as you deal with different emotions.

Imagine some being able to know what to say to help you when you desperately need it or to praise you when you desperately need to hear. As opposed to someone making you feel like you’ve been blown off. Also imagine not having to convey any of this to them – because they already knew it.

• … helping you find balance when you feel very imbalanced inside.

Imagine someone knowing how to reset the scales so you can find poise again – whether your needs of the moment supersede everything else or if you have to wait for your needs to be addressed.

With privacy lost, you are stripped down to your core … figuratively and before you know it … literally.

There are no secrets you wish to keep any longer, not from that one person. There is nothing you are capable of hiding anymore, not from that one person. Yes, privacy is lost. But there is everything to gain.

And that is what’s so dynamic about it.

Sometimes, the readjustments you not only crave but require comes at the hands of a little extra incentive, so to speak. And it is within those moments that you feel completely different. It’s not because you have become any different, but rather, because you stayed the same. It’s just that every little piece of you is now being affected as you are now an open-book to that one person.

And that one person becomes more important to you than anyone else.

There is a glorious helplessness when lying before him, naked of your reservations and naked otherwise – being powdered and being diapered and being cared for in a manner that privacy would deny you the right of having.

Oh, yes. You’ll fidget. And oh, yes. You’ll fuss. But the one deciding factor that makes privacy lost desired and sought is that you actually wanted to lose it in the first place. It was simply a matter of the conditions having to be as close to perfect as possible.