Have you ever met someone who was completely vanilla or at least didn’t mention anything about any less-than-vanilla interests who, upon getting to know them, you really wished was a kinky soul?
For a lot of folks, the answer is yes. And for some, this poses a dilemma almost instantly:
Do you say something to her about the non-vanilla?
The desire to is there, especially since you already mentally put her in a diaper when she smiled at you.
But common sense and human decency take over, or at least they ought to. However, there is always that lingering desire to want to tell her.
This handful of pictures always reminds me of that very dilemma when I look at them. I stumbled across these photos way, way, way back when there really wasn’t much of anything online about ABDL … or at least it didn’t pop up in internet searches.
The girl in these pictures represents that vanilla partner. And it is a depiction of hope that, when the day comes that you let the truth out, she will be not only receptive but also indulgent.
I’ve met a lot of kinky folks who had a vanilla partner. And they chose to ease the subject onto them. Some were very receptive to the idea and others not so much.
But of those who succeeded in conveying their kinky interests who delighted in seeing their partner join in, what they told me was they planted a mental seed and allowed everything to grow from there – with the understanding that maybe nothing would come of it.
In other words, they didn’t force the information onto their partner or overwhelm them with the non-vanilla. They took the time to get to know their partner as a whole and enjoyed the full relationship before saying anything at all.
This, of course, brings up the question of dishonesty. Is it dishonest to not be completely open with a partner? Chances are that question will never be answered and truthfully, can’t be answered.
No one introduces themselves to a new person, then giving them a full rundown of every conceivable little interest, habit, desire, want, need, etc.
The real question is: What do you want to tell this new person about yourself first?
If your answer is … “The first thing I wanna tell her is that I want to put her in a diaper and turn her into my BabyGirl” … then you’re likely to see her running away from you as fast as she can.
And how smart was that?
In my own experience, I had been dating a girl in college for two years before planting the seed one day and telling her that I had a fetish. She thought about it and asked what it was. Then I asked her if I could show her instead of tell her.
She agreed and two nights later, she was in a diaper – with a smile that went from ear to ear.
The answer could have been no just as easily as yes. That’s the unavoidable gamble.
However, if it’s important enough to you, you’ll find a way to convey it that not only works for you but, more importantly, works for her.
These pictures always remind me of situations that turn out right … because you took the time to allow them to come around. And now, there’s nothing standing in the way of … the indulgence.
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