Security and the Big “3”

Security and that sense of feeling safe and protected is something that a BabyGirl seeks just as much as that sense of feeling loved like no other.  Perhaps those two senses go hand in hand for her, as well they should for her to be able to open her heart and the wishes there within.

It is within those wishes, those yearnings that you will see what a BabyGirl is made of and truly all about.  It is within her heart you will find what she truly loves, what she wants in life, and the type of BabyGirl she wants to be. 

Feeling safe is one of the greatest feelings in the world.  Being made to feel safe by someone else is a feeling so great it is beyond any other.  For a Daddy, a BabyGirl who smiles because of him is someone he comes to need just as much.

When I say “The Big 3”, I am talking about the pacifier, the blanket, and the teddy bear.  The three most common items that can bring a Babygirl that sense of safety, security, and warmth (aside from the diaper, of course). 

Every BabyGirl loves one of them, if not all three.  It’s these items that serve to help and remind a girl that she is protected, even when her Daddy is not around.  Wanting to live a life where she is cradled, hugged, played with, and made to feel wonderful inside when she not only wants it but needs it most….that is a testament to her heart’s wishes.

When her heart goes from using phrases like “interested in”, “exploring” and “curious about” to feeling the emotions of words and phrases like “want”, “desire”, “long for”, “need”, “cry out”, “ache for”, and “crave”, it is then that she begins to discover what her heart is all about and what is within it.

Any Daddy who lives for the sight of her smiling face, and the warmth of fulfilling her wishes, will remember what her heart seeks by looking at what his heart seeks as well.

When she curls up on your lap and begins to get comfortable, it is then that you complete the trio. 

First her favorite blanket – which could be anything.  After all, it’s her security and only she will know what brings it to her.  Whether she is simply draped in it or swaddled from head to toe, the blanket brings her physical warmth which matches up with the warmth you have placed inside her heart, her mind and her soul.

Then her pacifier, contrasting those beautiful eyes and immediately sending her mind down the path of comfort.  She becomes timid and within her irises, you see directly into the center of who she is.  She opens herself to you as she finds the security to do so.

Finally, you produce her teddy bear from behind your back.  And if you have touched her heart, if you have found a way into her soul, maybe her eyes will say:  “You Remembered!” as an honest smile forms behind her pacifier, warming the color of her face.  (And that is something beautiful, AB related or not. When a girl’s face finds a happiness it didn’t have a moment ago, a guy is taken back by it.)

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How she holds her “Big Three”… the pacifier in her lips, the blanket and teddy bear – snuggled to her face and body, tell you they make her feel good, and feel safe.  Then she cradles up to you, snuggly to your body … you make her feel good, and feel safe as well.  She closes her eyes and drifts to sleep in your arms and the cradle of your lap.   

Security, at last.